08.12.2011 | by Dracovina | | Comments (25)
The familiar stranger
I have seen some blogs where the owners (usually there are girls/women) will release their entire life as an online diary. Joy, fear, worry, happiness and other events (or no-events) that busy the blogger will be written down in public and for anyone who has an internet connection and a browser it is possible to read these texts. In most cases, readers can also express their own views by commenting on the article.
Because there you speak about so many emotions, many like-minded people (especially women) can regain themselves in the texts and begin to follow the blog. After some time they contact the owner of the blog and everything takes its course.
After numerous chats, guest book entries or comments both decided to stay in touch on other platforms, which involves that both chum up with each other.
Of course there are other alternatives to the blog. Many have certainly met a good friend in a chat or in a social network before. Then there could be done exactly the same.
Two people who do not know each other at all in real life, and who would probably never even met, keep close contact, talk about personal things and are just fine. They feel understood by the other and are happy to have found a true friend. But is such an internet friendship really a true friendship?
Can an internet friendship ever be called a friendship? Both have finally never seen before in real life, may not know how the other one even looks like or how the other acts and reacts in real life. Perhaps you got the runaround and in the truth you chat with an old person who wants to approach young men and women?
Very well. You never know who is behind a monitor. The risk you have every time you login at a social network or anywhere else on the web, where other people are online.
That means you trust the other, that she/he tells the truth and behaves in reality as she/he seems to maintain online. Let us widen the intellectual game. For example, two young girls have regular contact, talk about common interests, exchange experiences, listen to the other at any time and understand each other, as if they were soul mates. But in real life they still never met. Does this mean that they are not "real" friends?
In my opinion today the Internet became an integral part of contemporary life. Why you should not be able to build up a friendship? Of course at the beginning it is not the same as in real life, but there nothing get in the way of a later meeting? You should always be careful and on guard. Sure there are evil people on the internet, but they are far from being the majority.
Even at the search for true love, the global internet can help you – how can we get to know otherwise someone else from a different place of the country? In addition, at least it is easier to write someone in chat than talking in real life, I think.
But back to friendships. An online friendship is not the same as a "real" friendship, but I think that this online friendship can also be great. Finally, behind the screens there are only sitting people who want to communicate. Or at least they should sit behind it – because as I said, "wrong" friends are everywhere, even more in real life. And you should preferably always be too cautious and suspicious than too trustful. Not all people want a the best for you, unfortunately everyone must experience this some day.
Ich kann gar nicht genau sagen, ob mir eine richtige Online-Freundschaft auf Dauer nicht irgendwie doch zu wenig wäre. Ich denke, ich brauche dieses "mal eben treffen und quatschen" oder "mal eben nach der Arbeit vorbeifahren". Bei Freunden aus dem Internet ist die Wahrscheinlichkeit eher gering, dass diese in meiner Nähe wohnen, eher im Gegenteil. Meistens leben sie wohl noch am anderen Ende Deutschlands. Aber nun gut. Wie es wirklich bei mir sein würde, zeigt eventuell wohl die Zukunft (oder nicht).
Dear readers, do you have a true internet friendship? Do you think it is the same as the one in "real life"?
And because I started in the beginning about the topic "blogging", I tell you now a few lines about my sense of writing.
And what gets you blogging?
The visitors who know my site quite a few years will have noticed that the contents have changed from Traumfinsternis. At the beginning it was more a resource, graphics and tutorial site – until it finally became my personal blog. What I wanted to achieve at the beginning, everyone should be obvious: my created images, textures, brushes (brushes) and written tutorials for beginners should assist other graphic artists and website carriers. In return service I only asked for a back-link, so my site should be known.
Some day I lacked the desire and above all the time to put to so much work and effort into these deals. I did let Traumfinsternis a long time resting and experimented with new designs.
In the middle of my training as media designer, I fully rebuilt and re-created everything of my website because of my new knowledge and experiences: visually, technically and in content. I got the urge to write my general thoughts of life, in the hope that one would read it and comment maybe. I just had the need to write the texts, partly to teach, to inform, or simply just to stimulate thinking. About my private life I never wanted to tell – who cares about it when I go eat some ice cream or when I met other people? Apart from that, this would exceed the limits of privacy. In contrast I like some personal blogs and love to read what this person had undertake or what is new. But for me it came and come oddly never into consideration.
I get out of blogging in this sense really not very much. But I am always delighted when my visitors read the texts and think that they are even great. And this is reason enough for me to write a further one in the near future :) Because what is a blog without readers? At this point I would like to thank all my readers! Thank you that you take the time that you read my thoughts and even comment them :)
I am curious what the future may hold! I hope I can continue to bother you with my posts ;)
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Dracovina
12. Dezember 2011, 18:40 Uhr
Das, was ich beschrieben habe, kann auch nur sein, es muss nicht zwangsläufig so geschehen ;)
Mh ja, das stimme ich dir zu. Manchmal können außenstehende Personen sogar einen klareren Blick auf die Situation werfen, sofern sie dann vertrauenswürdig und ehrlich sind.
So sehe ich das auch, ein richtiges Tagebuch sollte auf Papier bzw. einem echten Buch "unter Verschluss" geschrieben werden. Für mich käme ein online-Tagebuch, wie ich im Beitrag schon schrieb, nie in Frage. Wenn ich mir meine Sorgen von der Seele schreiben möchte, dann wäre ich es auch eher "geheim" und nicht öffentlich lesbar. Aber wenn manche Menschen gerne alles der Welt mitteilen möchten und so vllt. sogar Unterstützung von Gleichgesinnten bekommen, dann habe ich da auch nichts gegen. Wie gesagt, manche persönliche Blogs lese ich trotz ausschließlich privatem Inhalt auch mal ganz gerne :)
Alles klar^^